What Should Be the Price of Success?
January 17th, 2012In the February 2012 edition of the Success magazine, there is a story about the TV reality show Shark Tank. I have never seen the show, but as I read the article, my blood began to boil. The article suggests that to achieve success, you must sacrifice everything else. Is success really worth this price?
If I understand the show’s concept correctly, entrepreneurs are selected by the show’s producers to pitch their business concepts to the sharks who then decide whether to invest in the entrepreneur’s business. The so called sharks are: Kevin O’Leary, Mark Cuban, Daymond John, Barbara Corcoran and Robert Herjavec.
As a worksite wellness and well-being thought leader and strategist, what particularly concerned me was two of the story’s concluding three paragraphs. These two paragraphs stated: “The sharks agree that entrepreneurs have to be willing to sacrifice a lot until a new business starts to succeed.” Mark Cuban is quoted as saying, “If you are not dreaming about it, if your relationships aren’t being injured by it, you know, if you are not tired, you are not working hard enough.”
Kevin O’Leary is quoted as saying, “I love working with young people who are willing to sacrifice everything for success. I am talking about people who are willing to give up their marriages just to make the business successful. They are willing to live like hermits and work for 20 hours a day if that is what it takes.”
I have been a W-2 employee for all of my professional career. Therefore, maybe I am more of a wantrepreneur than a true entrepreneur. However, it just does not make any sense to me that in order to achieve success, one has to sacrifice their health and happiness. There has to be a better way.
As human beings, I believe we both want and need happiness and success. Our current societal operating model, known as Blank Slate, puts success ahead of happiness. Blank Slate states that once you achieve success, you will be happy. Recent positive psychology research has, however, proven otherwise. According to the research, happiness precedes success. If you can achieve happiness, success will follow.
For the past two years, I have been studying the happiness and success model put forth by Mike Jay. Mike is an international business and leadership developmentalist who has consulted and coached managers and executives in 47 countries. Originally fromNebraska, Mike now lives in Manila, Philippines where, as a businessman, he believes he can better capitalize on the near east and Asian demographic growth curves.
In Mike’s model, known as Flawless Living, what makes us happy is inborn and unique to each of us. What we view as success is usually determined by sources and forces outside ourselves, what Mike refers to as a composite success standard. This creates a gap that Mike refers to as the happiness – success gap. Traditionally, we try to close the gap by changing ourselves, more often than not, without success. As Mike is fond of saying, “Just because you can, doesn’t mean you will.” In Flawless Living, closing the gap involves the use of strategies other than personal change.
If you think about it, the current entrepreneurial model, where 90 percent of the start-ups fail within five years, is obviously flawed. I am not suggesting that entrepreneurial success should not require focus and hard work, only that it should not require the loss of either health or happiness. The good life should include happiness, success and health. To achieve the good life, you should not have to sacrifice neither happiness, health or success.